If anyone thought wedding planning was fun, well, I can assure you that you're wrong. It is anything but. It's like a perpetual worry that you're forgetting to invite someone, or forgetting to do something, even though you've made a list of a list of a list to make sure you haven't. At least that's how I feel about my own wedding.
Before I spam about my own wedding preparations, I thought it'd be nice to remember my journey as a bridesmaid so here goes :
1. You'll learn to put the needs of someone (the bride) above yourself.
The bridesmaid dress may not be your style, or fit your body type, might make you suffocate every time you sit down, but you'll wear it with a smile cause you know it'll make the bride happy.
Situations may arise where you aren't happy about but you'll count to 10, rub your ear and go "woosa" and hold it in so there's no drama that'll take away from your bride's moment. No one wants to be a thunder-stealer on someone's big day!
2. You'll see a part of yourself you never knew existed.
You'll never think that you could willingly drag yourself out of bed at 4.30 in the morning but you will.
You'll also realise you have emotions that you never thought you'd have in your cold icy heart.
You know how you'd laugh at people who'd cry when they first see the bride or when they exchange vows? You, very ironically, become one of them.
3. You form an unspoken bond with the other bridesmaids
It's true, the people who were merely strangers a few months earlier, will suddenly feel like your long-time best friends. There's a certain comraderie that comes with surviving a wedding together. No one talks about it or verbalises their feelings towards the others, but it's there.
4. You will, at your lowest point, ask yourself why anyone would want to get married in the first place
Yup, when all the preparations seem to get overwhelming and you see the amount of money going into one event, you start questioning your own choice of wanting to get married. You begin to wonder if all the effort and money is worth it for a single event.
5. You'll see the ceremony and how beautiful it is and you'll change your mind.
Nuff' said.
6. You will feel strangely honoured to be a part of it all
Your feet are gonna blister and bleed, your back will ache from lugging heavy bags around and bending over time and again to arrange the bride's train, and at some point during the event, you seriously contemplate crawling under the table and just passing out but after the fatigue wears out ( and adrenalin kicks in?) , you'll realise how blessed you are to be part of it all and given the chance of doing it all over again, you would jump at it in a heartbeat. It IS a big deal being a part of someone's biggest day. Embrace it.
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