I had grand plans for my wedding. For our save the dates, I was going to have pencils engraved with our names and wedding date, with a cards which said "pencil us in!" We ended up just having magnets with our photos. The hassle of getting the pencils, designing the cards to match, and finding envelopes that would fit, just proved too much amongst the many other things that had to be done.
2. You're pretty much planning the wedding alone
Your groom doesn't care what color your flowers are, how the napkins are folded, if the chairs are Tiffany or not or if the grooms men's ties match the rest of the bridal party. All he wants to know is how much everything costs, and what time to show up (and what to show up in). It's not that he doesn't love you, he IS marrying you after all, he just hasn't been dreaming about the wedding since he was 3 like you did when you first wore your pillowcase as a veil and made all your soft toys attend your pretend wedding. I've had many exasperating moments with Jason during the past few months of planning. I'd research 6-8 photographers, email all of them to check their availability, narrow it down to the 3 that I like best and finally decided on a photographer I really loved, made all possible arrangements for hiring him, then Jason would say, "why so expensive? Can we find another one?" and for a split second I'd contemplate first degree murder. Having said that, I must admit Jason has been very accommodating to my requests. He's tried very hard to make it to wedding-related appointments. I've learnt that in order to get anything planned, I have to just go ahead with my gut, make the plans, and just let him know about the appointment. I tried the other way of trying to discuss details with him and wanted to pull my hair out. So brides, unless you want to explain 28163836 times what a Tiffany chair is or why you HAVE to have that $5000 centerpiece, DON'T discuss it with your future husband. Just keep within the agreed budget, and do as you want.
3. You'll realize you have more friends than you thought
People will surprise you. Your college friend whom you've not spoken to in years, is now suddenly your new BFF all cause of your wedding! Weddings bring people together!
4. The details don't matter as much as they used to
So you wanted silver Tiffany chairs (I keep bringing Tiffany chairs up cause I'm in love with them and I have them for my solemnization) but they only have enough in gold for your ceremony, and you realize it's no big deal, you could be getting married without any chairs, and it won't even matter because you're marrying the man of your dreams, and that's most important. Things that you thought you had to have, suddenly become unimportant.
5. Everyone will have an opinion about how your wedding should be
No matter how good their intentions may be, it's frustrating hearing people's opinions of how they think you should decorate YOUR wedding, what music you should play, what food you should serve, etc. I can't tell you how many times that's happened to me. No, I don't want to play classical music at my wedding, no I don't want to cover my face with a veil (yes I'm totally not traditional), no I don't want balloons!!! It's MY wedding, just let me plan it how I want it!?! It's the one day of my life that's most important to ME. It may sound selfish, but it's the truth. No one is going to remember the day better than I am, no one is going to tell their children 10 years later what a magical night it was because truth of the matter is, it's not going to mean as much to anyone else than to me and my husband. Of course, I say none of this out loud. I take a deep breath, bite my lip, sing "Happy" in my head and hope that perhaps in a moment of clarity, they'd realize it's not their wedding but mine. It's hard to stay angry with them anyway, cause you know they have your best interests at heart.
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